Time heals all wounds-It’s time to make up and get your ex husband back

The saying “Time heals all wounds” is true. No matter how painful things are, as time goes by it would be gone unnoticeable. If the pain is gone, you are back to your normal self and your thinking is clearer than before.

You noticed that your life is empty since you separated with your husband. You thought that when he’s no longer around to scatter tools, to use the chairs and couches as hangers for his clothes, leave the toilet seat up all the time, and all the irritating stories he shares… you will feel better. But you feel worse than better. Now you want him back!

You divorced him because you have too many differences. You tried to change him so many times but he just can’t correct his attitude. He is clumsy and all over the place when he works. It’s a constant headache for you. Instead of working out the problem, you just run out of your relationship thinking it’s the best for both of you.

You had kids, and they’re all grown up so it didn’t matter if you divorce each other. But here you are wondering why no one seems to be appealing. You tried dating and meeting other guys but they seem to be so much perfect, not your type either.

You miss the clutters and lousy stories he share…you’ve forgiven your husband and you miss him after all. His last words are now clear to you before you got divorced. It’s constantly playing in your mind “I love you enough to let you go, if this will make you happy I will set you free. I love you…goodbye.”

You never paid attention to his letters and notes. All you cared about before is to make him change his attitude. You just hated his clutters and you see his notes as litters not as an expression of appreciation and endearment for all the things you’ve done for him.

Now that you’re alone, you remember the notes piled up in your desk, one of them reads,

Honey, I know I’m not the most amazing man on earth. You can’t call me your superman but clutter man. Sorry for all the mess, I will make it up to you…you’re my one and only and thank you and I love you always…dinner tonight?

Yes you want to see him and talk to him again and start dating. Your problem is how would you approach your ex husband and tell him you finally realized that you made a wrong decision to kick him out of your life. Don’t be despair lady you have more than 75% chances to get him back. Just read his notes again he loves you more than enough!

Here’s what you need to do, this time be smart and don’t be a brat.

First, talk to your kids and tell them about your plans and ask for help and advice. They are your strongest back up to get your ex husband back. But don’t get them too involved, their moral support is what you needed most. You must do the leg work yourself.
Give him a call and tell him that you want to discuss something personal that concerns both of you and invite him for a dinner.
If he accepts the invitation, that is a good signal. Cook his favorite food and try to look fresh and pretty.
Play your theme song or favorite songs together while having dinner to soothe your souls and talk about the good times when you first met. This will give him the hint of what you really want to convey.
Open up and tell him you’ve been going through all your memories together, pictures and notes. Let him know that you regret the divorce and you want to reconnect with him.
Ask him if you can be friends again and this time you want to listen to his stories because you missed them.
Let him talk, listen with your ears…listen with your heart. Never miss any single word.
If he accepts you with open arms, work things out together until you get your feelings back and build intimacy slowly-physically and emotionally.

“Love is composed of a single soul inhabiting two bodies.”—Aristotle