Stop My Divorce

There are moments when a marriage, no matter how long you’ve been together it can still be challenged. Just look at Michael Jackson’s parents, Katherine and Joe Jackson have been together for 6 decades but they end up divorced.

“After 60 years, she’s had enough. She’s been humiliated by him for too long. She’s absolutely livid. This time there’s no going back.” (Quote from celebnews.com)

Incidents like this rarely happen. Based on Katherine Jackson’s statement during the 60 years of their married life, she tried her best to keep their relationship but she eventually decided to end it. Humiliation is one reason…an indication that she can’t take the emotional sufferings anymore.

The point is, there’s no assurance that you can have each other together no matter how long your marriage if problems are not resolve accordingly. If the duration of your marriage is the only reason why you’re still hanging on with relationship is not healthy. You must keep your marriage because you love your spouse and you don’t want to live without him no matter how imperfect he is.

According to Mort Mortel the world authority on the psychology of relationships, the key to a long-lasting, successful marriage is “not finding the right person, it is falling in love with the right person you selected.”

Falling in love with spouse shouldn’t just be during the first years, you need to feel in love with the same person over and over again. You need to stay in love with your spouse and maintain that loving feeling with each other. That’s the only way you can stop divorce from happening to your marriage.

The younger generations who have just a few years of marriage think that it’s alright to have a divorce. They think that it’s better to let go of the relationship early on to avoid more pain, and they look forward to finding a new mate who is more compatible. It’s true you can find somebody along the way and get married again but if you didn’t learn your lesson from your first marriage you might have another sad ending again? There are people out there who had multiple marriages because they can’t work it out. Are they happy? Probably not, how can you be happy when you are constantly changing partner. The dilemma is you are unsure if you can find someone who can truly love you for the rest of your life.

What can a married couple do to stop going through a painful divorce? There are too many advices available. First, once you got married start your life being honest with each other. Accept that there’s no perfect person and both of you have negative characters. Your negative traits will only come out once triggered by a situation. You must agree with your spouse that, if one of your negative traits comes out, asks your spouse to write it down along with an observation and make a suggestion how to correct it. You can’t see yourself and your mistakes. Let your spouse be your mirror and guide to become a better person vice versa.

A man is not created by God to live alone…He himself created and instituted marriage. Changing partner and going through a divorce is not really an option. Rather try your best to keep and nurture your marriage and be with your spouse as long as you live. You need to help each other in every aspect of your life and express how much you love each other in every way.

You don’t have to buy roses, chocolates, or give presents all the time. Sweet nothings, tiny gestures of endearment are oftentimes romantic and it fires the passion of the heart.

“There is no remedy for love but to love more.”
—Henry David Thoreau