Marriage Crisis

Are you off guard and your marriage is stricken seriously and you don’t know why your spouse is asking for a divorce? All you knew was, everything is well in your relationship. There had been no big arguments at all. Your spouse always say okay to everything, but now…everything is shattered.

You are clue less and she doesn’t even want to talk about her reasons. She wants a DIVORCE that’s all.

You are completely shock and you don’t know what to do and how to react. One can never imagine how painful you are going through right now.

The woman whom you love so much is asking for a divorce…your wife who never complained, never argued for anything is now leaving you. How did it happen? That’s a million dollar question and you don’t know the answer.

All married couples should learn the art of battle as they should learn the art of making love. Good battle is objective and honest – never vicious or cruel. Good battle is healthy and constructive, and brings to a marriage the principle of equal partnership. —Ann Landers (1918 – 2002)

Certainly, you are in the midst of a marriage crisis. Since your spouse is the type of person who doesn’t want to argue, there is a great possibility that you can still patch up the problem before it’s too late. Here are some ways you can try to keep you out from the marriage crisis:

  1. Reflect back and analyze your over all relationship. Ask yourself are there any major changes in your life? What are the things that might have triggered her decision?
  2. Start a heart to heart talk with your spouse- Since you never had any big argument at all, most probably you never had an intimate talk either. Have you or have you not? This is the right time to do that. She’s probably waiting for this moment for so long and she can’t wait any longer.
  3. Be close and hold her hands when you engage in conversation, gently ask her what’s the real problem, tell her that you are willing to listen and accept the mistakes you’ve done against her.
  4. Establish an eye to eye contact when you are talking to her. Remember “the eyes are the mirror of the soul.” When you look into each other’s eyes you will be able to feel the matters of your heart and soul. This way you’ll be able to truly connect with her get to the bottom of your problem.
  5. Listen attentively when she starts talking and be prepared for all the negative things she’ll reveal about you. Accept them and don’t try to defend yourself. At the same time remind her of the positive things that really happened in your life. Remember, don’t be defensive just simply state the positives.
  6. Praise her for being honest with you and for letting you know of your mistakes. Emphasize that because of her, you were given the chance to correct your mistakes and renew yourself.
  7. Agree with her about the problem and ask her what you can do together to fix the issues. Be positive and focus on specific solutions.

Sometimes a spouse is forced to ask for a divorce in order for you to wake up from being too comfortable in your relationship. Pay more attention to your spouse and make sure you are still intimately in love with each other.

Marriage Crisis is a wake-up call for you to fix things that are not working and eventually build a healthy and happy marriage.