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		<title>How to win back your ex wife</title>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 28 Sep 2010 04:09:14 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[Your wife has been emotionally distance with you for over a year now and you think that you’re relationship is at the edge of the hill ready to fall anytime if either one of you makes the wrong move. She has already given signs of wanting to end the relationship and you’re not open to [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Your wife has been emotionally distance with you for over a year now and you think that you’re relationship is at the edge of the hill ready to fall anytime if either one of you makes the wrong move. She has already given signs of wanting to end the relationship and you’re not open to the idea.</p>
<p>Right now you are searching for ways on how to improve your relationship with her. Your main goal is to re-establish closeness and intimacy between you and your wife. It’s been a year or so since the last time you showed intimacy with each other. Over the past year, both of you just live together like housemates. You’ve lost romance and sexual desire for each other. You love your wife more than she ever knew but you have difficulty in expressing your affection for her. You are not the type of guy that who is vocal and you can’t even remember when was the last time you said “I love you” to her.</p>
<p>You knew that she likes to hear the words from you. You get irritated every time she asked you the question-Do you love me? Instead of telling her, “Yes, I love you” your reply was irritation saying what kind of question is that. She just stopped asking you and eventually you noticed her drifting apart.</p>
<p>Now you’re worried because she is ready to leave you anytime. She hasn’t announced yet and you don’t want it to happen. What will you do to stop her from getting out of your relationship? Here is some advice that might help you stop her from leaving:</p>
<ol>
<li>A joker would say close the door! Hmmm…don’t get mad, he’s actually right. If you want to keep your wife you must close the door and open your heart to her. You can literally close your bedroom door and talk to heart to heart about your emotional distance and honestly tell her that you don’t want to lose her.</li>
<li>She’s been longing to hear the magic words from you…It’s about time to tell her “I Love You.” and take responsibility of the problem since you’re the one who created emotional distance between you.</li>
<li>Look into her eyes while stating your desire to reconnect with her and awaken your love for each other.</li>
<li>Use the magic of touching to soften her heart and kiss her to rekindle intimate moments.</li>
<li>Ask her for a date and do the things she wanted you to do for her to feel how much you love her. In other words start courting her again, stimulate your excitement for each other and replace all your fears and emotional distance with intimacy.</li>
<li>Be intimate and start being honest and vocal about your feeling for your wife. Express more love and appreciate her more often.</li>
</ol>
<p>According to Dr. Bonnie Eaker Weil, author of Make Up, Don’t Break Up “In marriage, closing the exits means committing to hang in there and agreeing to stay together and trying to work it out.</p>
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		<title>Marital Crisis</title>
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		<pubDate>Sun, 26 Sep 2010 03:41:27 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[Disagreements happen all the time in any relationship. You must learn to accept that problems come and go in a person’s life. Most married couple recognized this reality in their lives and they learned how to deal with every conflict that comes along the way. Marital Crisis is brought about by an array of reason [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Disagreements happen all the time in any relationship. You must learn to accept that problems come and go in a person’s life. Most married couple recognized this reality in their lives and they learned how to deal with every conflict that comes along the way.</p>
<p>Marital Crisis is brought about by an array of reason such as: communication, children, personality differences, and extra-marital affair.</p>
<p>These are just a few reasons where problem arise between a couple if not addressed properly your marriage may lead to a sad ending…divorce.</p>
<p><strong>COMMUNICATION</strong></p>
<p>This is one of the major causes of misunderstanding between couple. You can’t just practice a mere communication in marriage by simply speaking the words clearly and listening. You need to use EFFECTIVE COMMUNICATION to avoid problems.</p>
<p>A Couple fights because of:</p>
<ol>
<li>Miscommunication, He or she can’t clearly state her wants, needs, dreams in life, and inner feelings and thoughts.</li>
<li>Improper communication, for instance instead of speaking softly, a spouse start the communication by complaining or yelling when something is wrong.</li>
<li>Lack of communication, some couple let the day pass without discussing important aspects of their life.</li>
<li>Inconsistency in communication, There are individuals who are not consistent with their words that creates confusion. They often say nothing when they really want to say something which normally leads to argument.</li>
</ol>
<p>In marriage you need to practice EFFECTIVE COMMUNICATION, the ability to use the right communication skills such communicating tenderly with your spouse. Avoid the negative and combatant style of conversation. Use constructive criticism when you want to correct something. And most importantly effective communication is not just speaking properly but also listening attentively coupled by respect and understanding. If something is not clear, ask for clarification and don’t criticize or condemn your partner.</p>
<p><strong>CHILDREN</strong></p>
<p>Majority of couples center their life to the kids once they start having them. They focus more on the needs of the children and their responsibilities as parents. There’s nothing wrong with that, kids are suppose to bind you as couple. But some couple develops distance with each other because of their responsibilities with their offspring. Why? That’s the only common interest they share. Other than that, they don’t do anything together anymore. They feel exhausted and they don’t have time to cuddle and emotionally connect with each other. Romance and sexual desire is fading.</p>
<p>Do you have kids right now? If yes, aside from taking care of them and planning for their future, have you talk to your spouse about your needs as husband and wife? If not, better do something about it.</p>
<ul>
<li>You should always prioritize you marriage. This doesn’t mean abandoning your parental responsibilities instead balance your activities.</li>
<li>Develop a common interest aside from your children’s needs and learn to enjoy and relax together.</li>
<li>Be away with the kids once in a while and have an alone time with your spouse to be intimate and fulfill your sexual needs.</li>
<li>Keep in mind that your marriage should be your top priority because having a healthy marriage benefits your children. A dysfunctional, unhappy marriage will not only cause trouble to you but to your children as well.</li>
</ul>
<p><strong>PERSONALITY DIFFERENCES</strong></p>
<p>Irreconcilable difference is the number one reason of most couples seeking for divorce.</p>
<p>After years of living together they still don’t know how to deal and respect each other’s personality.</p>
<p>Because of personality differences both spouse try to change each other. That causes problem.</p>
<p>Don’t force your spouse to change his or her personality, even if your purpose is for his betterment.</p>
<p>But did you ever think how your spouse feel when you blatantly tell him or her that you don’t like the</p>
<p>way he or she dress, talks, or spends time and money? That hurts! Your spouse expected you to love and accept him at face value and yet you’re trying to change him or her.</p>
<p>It is best for you to understand each other deeply and try to work out your differences. Instead of focusing on what you don’t like about your spouse, concentrate on finding the things you like about him or her. Learn to embrace each others’ personality because there’s no such thing as perfectly compatible. Even an identical twin has dissimilarities.</p>
<p><strong>EXTRA MARITAL AFFAIR</strong></p>
<p>This is the hardest part within the marital crisis. Most couple considers this as inexcusable act. A spouse like you may not even think of the idea that your partner is unfaithful in your marriage. Men and women are vulnerable to temptation at work especially when everybody in the office is always at their best.</p>
<p>You need to avoid developing emotional attachment to the opposite sex at your work place because it may just lead you to stray. Try to look best not for anybody else but your spouse. If you are a stay at home wife and full time mom, make sure that you also take care of yourself not only the children. You must remain attractive for your husband and always be fresh and joyful every time he comes home from work.</p>
<p>You as a husband must always be excited to come home and be with your family and treat them as your ultimate joy in your life.</p>
<p><em>“A successful marriage is an edifice that must be rebuilt every day.”&#8212;Andre Maurois</em></p>
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		<title>Marriage Crisis</title>
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		<pubDate>Sat, 25 Sep 2010 03:35:47 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[Are you off guard and your marriage is stricken seriously and you don’t know why your spouse is asking for a divorce? All you knew was, everything is well in your relationship. There had been no big arguments at all. Your spouse always say okay to everything, but now…everything is shattered. You are clue less [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Are you off guard and your marriage is stricken seriously and you don’t know why your spouse is asking for a divorce? All you knew was, everything is well in your relationship. There had been no big arguments at all. Your spouse always say okay to everything, but now…everything is shattered.</p>
<p>You are clue less and she doesn’t even want to talk about her reasons. She wants a DIVORCE that’s all.</p>
<p>You are completely shock and you don’t know what to do and how to react. One can never imagine how painful you are going through right now.</p>
<p>The woman whom you love so much is asking for a divorce…your wife who never complained, never argued for anything is now leaving you. How did it happen? That’s a million dollar question and you don’t know the answer.</p>
<p style="text-align: center;"><em>All married couples should learn the art of battle as they should learn the art of making love. Good battle is objective and honest &#8211; never vicious or cruel. Good battle is healthy and constructive, and brings to a marriage the principle of equal partnership. &#8212;Ann Landers (1918 &#8211; 2002)</em></p>
<p>Certainly, you are in the midst of a marriage crisis. Since your spouse is the type of person who doesn’t want to argue, there is a great possibility that you can still patch up the problem before it’s too late. Here are some ways you can try to keep you out from the marriage crisis:</p>
<ol>
<li>Reflect back and analyze your over all relationship. Ask yourself are there any major changes in your life? What are the things that might have triggered her decision?</li>
<li>Start a heart to heart talk with your spouse- Since you never had any big argument at all, most probably you never had an intimate talk either. Have you or have you not? This is the right time to do that. She’s probably waiting for this moment for so long and she can’t wait any longer.</li>
<li>Be close and hold her hands when you engage in conversation, gently ask her what’s the real problem, tell her that you are willing to listen and accept the mistakes you’ve done against her.</li>
<li>Establish an eye to eye contact when you are talking to her. Remember “the eyes are the mirror of the soul.” When you look into each other’s eyes you will be able to feel the matters of your heart and soul. This way you’ll be able to truly connect with her get to the bottom of your problem.</li>
<li>Listen attentively when she starts talking and be prepared for all the negative things she’ll reveal about you. Accept them and don’t try to defend yourself. At the same time remind her of the positive things that really happened in your life. Remember, don’t be defensive just simply state the positives.</li>
<li>Praise her for being honest with you and for letting you know of your mistakes. Emphasize that because of her, you were given the chance to correct your mistakes and renew yourself.</li>
<li>Agree with her about the problem and ask her what you can do together to fix the issues. Be positive and focus on specific solutions.</li>
</ol>
<p>Sometimes a spouse is forced to ask for a divorce in order for you to wake up from being too comfortable in your relationship. Pay more attention to your spouse and make sure you are still intimately in love with each other.</p>
<p>Marriage Crisis is a wake-up call for you to fix things that are not working and eventually build a healthy and happy marriage.</p>
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		<title>Online Marriage Help</title>
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		<pubDate>Thu, 23 Sep 2010 03:31:23 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[The advent of advance technology has made everything accessible to every human being. You can find anything you want with just one click on the internet. Information about products, people, places, and services is available. You call it a High Tech Market Place. Marriage as you know is not a product that comes with a [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>The advent of advance technology has made everything accessible to every human being. You can find anything you want with just one click on the internet. Information about products, people, places, and services is available. You call it a High Tech Market Place.</p>
<p>Marriage as you know is not a product that comes with a manual to be able to learn it. Marriage can only be learned through experience by sharing life with your spouse and through observation, advice, and interactions from your parents, friends, and other married couples you encounter as you sojourn in this world.</p>
<p>Since today’s life is already advanced you can also learn a variety of information about marriage on the net. Just click marriage in the search box and presto, you can pick any topic you want. Is it possible to find an Online Marriage Help? Definitely! Today finding solution to any problem is easier, it’s just a click away as they say.</p>
<p>Because of our modern society, people drastically changed from head to toe as well as their perspective in life. As you know, many have forgotten the sanctity of marriage and if you only rely on what you see and hear in the society you will also come up to the generalized modern thinking that when your marriage is in trouble, the solution is to divorce.</p>
<p>One important thing you must know is that there are a few websites that evaluate options for marital assistance most are operated by religious sectors for free. They determine which sites are helpful or scam.</p>
<p>As you know there are many websites out there promoting materials such as books and DVDs as well as programs that encourage individuals to enroll and be a part of a marital help lecture series. Getting marital help costs money. Getting the best advice doesn’t mean paying more money or choosing a more expensive material or service.</p>
<p>The internet provides almost all information you need in finding online marital help. Just be patient in researching and do not forget to check the credibility of the people listed offering professional marriage counseling.</p>
<p>You must bear in mind that websites affiliated with religious organizations oftentimes offer a minimal cost for their advice and they are also connected with government social service agencies.</p>
<p>There are too many sites out there that offer generalized solutions to marriage problems, whose primary objective is just to make money from you. You need to be careful and don’t be immediately enticed by their powerful marketing campaign.</p>
<p>Every marital problem is unique. First, you need to identify the primary cause of the problem in your marriage before scouting for a solution.  It is best to seek a credible professional marriage counselor when you think you can’t handle the conflict on your own.</p>
<p>Normally the main cause of conflict in marriage is lack of respect and understanding, failure to perform conjugal obligations, and sudden changes in your life style. It’s good to have friends and family members around when your marriage is in trouble, however asking them for marriage advice or solution is not objective because of their emotional attachment to you. Instead of being objective, they just add more drama, making you more emotional and they cloud better judgment.</p>
<p>Using the internet to find information on how to solve your problem is not a bad idea. It’s quick and easy plus you’ll be able to scrutinize the information available. You can also readily analyze the situations presented whether you can relate to it and apply to your current situation.</p>
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		<title>Prevent Divorce</title>
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		<pubDate>Wed, 22 Sep 2010 03:30:20 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[In most cases, prevention is the first thing that comes to your mind when you feel something wrong with your body. You take precautionary measures to ensure safety. For instance, during flu season you go to your doctor and ask for a flu shot to prevent yourself from getting sick or inflicted by the disease. [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>In most cases, prevention is the first thing that comes to your mind when you feel something wrong with your body. You take precautionary measures to ensure safety. For instance, during flu season you go to your doctor and ask for a flu shot to prevent yourself from getting sick or inflicted by the disease.</p>
<p>Prevention is also the first thing that comes on your mind when it comes to your marriage. You practice precautionary measures to prevent divorce. Most couples who are in crisis don’t thing about going through the process of divorce instead they think about ways on how they can prevent divorce in their marriage.</p>
<p>Considering the idea that you and your spouse would be in court fighting for the custody of your children, who will stay in the house, how much property will be divided is a painful and agonizing situation. A couple with the right mind and the right love for each other want to avoid this situation and find ways how to maintain a happy married life.</p>
<p>There is always a possibility that your marriage will be confronted by unexpected trials, no matter how strong your marriage is, there might be some point wherein you or your spouse may feel like giving up. But if you have a strong will to keep your marriage intact, the idea of divorce will never be entertained instead you will focus on preventing it from happening.</p>
<p>Even if you’re marriage is not in trouble right now, it’s better for you and your spouse to read materials about tips on how to build a good relationship and a successful marriage. If you can’t encourage your spouse to do some reading because he or she believed that it isn’t necessary, you can do it yourself. You can just share it with your spouse by showing it and setting an example.</p>
<p>Most articles available in the internet or books give practical advices on how to prevent divorce and build a good relationship. What are these practical advices?</p>
<ul>
<li>You must avoid disagreements. Instead of yelling, screaming and fighting, do it the other way try to compromise and agree.</li>
<li>Stop the power struggle, if you’re a woman learn to submit to your husband and accept him as your protector and guide. If you’re a man you need to understand that your wife is weaker gender and she needs love and understanding.</li>
<li>Attentive listening is very important to avoid miscommunication. How can you solve a problem if you don’t understand the reason behind your spouse’s worries and troubles?</li>
<li>Always be positive in your conversations, make an effort to find something you can appreciate from your mate.</li>
<li>Be creative, find ways to express your love, have fun and enjoy each others’ company.</li>
<li>Problems just come and go in life. Be positive and keep in mind that there’s always a solution for everything. Don’t let worries come in between you instead welcome it as a driving force to make you closer to each other.</li>
</ul>
<p>Keeping your marriage intact is not simply putting a lock on it or putting an alarm system to keep it safe.</p>
<p>Simone Signoret says:</p>
<p>“Chains do not hold a marriage together. It is threads, hundreds of tiny threads which sew people together through the years. That is what makes marriage last, more than passion or even sex.”</p>
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		<title>Relationship Advice for Men to Consider</title>
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		<pubDate>Mon, 20 Sep 2010 03:21:11 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[You are expert when it comes to dating. It’s easy for you to charm ladies with your handsome smile and sweet talks. You are tagged as a “lover boy” and you are proud of it. You got all the skills in dating but when the right time comes when you finally decide to settle down [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>You are expert when it comes to dating. It’s easy for you to charm ladies with your handsome smile and sweet talks. You are tagged as a “lover boy” and you are proud of it. You got all the skills in dating but when the right time comes when you finally decide to settle down and be serious on your relationship, your dating skills is not enough.</p>
<p>Dating is completely different from a serious relationship. You can’t be just a charmer and sweet talker or else you will lose the love of your life.</p>
<p>Here is the fact, you are probably proud as a “lover boy” but think about this, your fellow men maybe curious and want to know your techniques in charming the ladies. But women are different in their perspective towards relationship. If you want a serious relationship- you got to be serious!</p>
<p>No matter how you enjoy dating you will come to the point of wanting to develop a steady and happy relationship. If you are now ready to take your relationship in the right track, you must consider these ideas:</p>
<ul>
<li>GIVE HER ENOUGH ATTENTION- Keep in mind that’s she’s not one of the guys whom you hang out with watching sports for hours without sensible conversation. She is your lady and she deserves enough attention from you. Make sure when you are together, no matter what you do either watching football, movies, or any activity…have a good conversation, a woman likes to share her inner thoughts and feelings. Be ready not just to listen but interact with her.</li>
<li>INTIMACY IS NOT JUST SEX- The meaning of intimacy for women is not only done in bed. They like their partner to be romantic in many ways like holding hands when you are walking in park, cuddling while watching TV, gazing into each other eyes and surprise kisses when least expected. Women love that, and it’s very effective in making your relationship more passionate.</li>
<li>LEARN HER COMMUNICATION STYLE-She likes long conversations and you don’t. This can create a hole in the relationship so early inform her about how you normally communicate. Explain that man normally communicate through actions. More actions lesser words. Tell her that you prefer short but sweet conversation. She can talk as much as she want and tell her stories and you are willing to listen and pay attention but you can’t talk as much she can. Make it clear so that she won’t expect you to be a chatter box like her.</li>
<li>SAY THAT YOU LOVE ME; SHOW ME THAT YOU CARE- Familiar? That’s how women are. A woman wants to know how important she is to you. Not just that, you got to show her at all times especially when you have a history of having dated so many women in the past. A woman needs assurance that she is your one and only. Don’t get irritated if she always asked if you love him. She wants to hear the three magic words (I LOVE YOU)…all the time!</li>
</ul>
<p>Learning the differences between you and your lady is one important key in creating a good relationship. You just have to pay attention and observe her personality. Know her better. Once you accomplish that, it would be easy for you to adjust and solve any situation without struggle. You’re the man, guide and lead her to a long lasting and happy relationship.</p>
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		<title>Vital Relationship Advice for Women</title>
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		<pubDate>Fri, 17 Sep 2010 14:07:07 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[Men and women are different in many ways not only in their biological attributes but in most aspect of their life. There are so many differences such as the role they play in the society, and their obligations in marital relationship. The disparity between a man and a woman most of the time causes misunderstanding [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Men and women are different in many ways not only in their biological attributes but in most aspect of their life. There are so many differences such as the role they play in the society, and their obligations in marital relationship. The disparity between a man and a woman most of the time causes misunderstanding in a relationship. Because of this, a great understanding on the opposite sex is vital to be able to connect the gap between the sexes.</p>
<p>In a relationship a woman needs to understand not just the physiological characteristics of her spouse but also the other aspects of his life. A deeper understanding about the man’s communication style is very significant for a woman to understand because it paves the way in maintaining a strong relationship or repair damages if the situation is unstable.</p>
<p>A vital relationship advice for women is very helpful in understand how a man communicate to be able develop a harmonious relationship. How do men communicate their feelings, needs, and desires? Generally,</p>
<ol>
<li>Men are Problem Solvers- Men doesn’t spend hours talking and discussing issues over and over again. Once a problem is presented to a man expect that his first reaction is to think for a solution. Do not expect him to react like a woman and be emotional about it and drag the issue in a never ending circle of analysis and possibilities. A man wants to see the issue resolved immediately.</li>
<li> Men focus and connect more through actions- He appreciates romantic words but he connects more when you say it accompanied by actions. For men action speaks louder than words. Don’t tell him rather SHOW HIM! That’s the key towards deeper connection.</li>
<li>Men are not vocal – Men prefer to show how they feel. They are not comfortable talking and sharing their inner thoughts and feelings. They always keep mini conversations when expressing their feelings.</li>
<li>Men perform well on a timetable- If you want him to help and accomplish something in the house you must give him a list of things to do. A man works well when a plan is presented to him and a few reminders helps a lot. DO NOT NAG!</li>
</ol>
<p>Harmony between a man and a woman is not impossible. No matter how long the list of individual differences between the two sexes they can still live together happily. Opposite attracts! Once attracted to each other, it’s hard to repel.</p>
<p>Once you learn to communicate with each other in harmony. Your words will sound like music to each other.</p>
<p>&#8220;Harmony is pure love, for love is a concerto.&#8221;&#8212;Lope de Vega</p>
<p>The deeper you understand his communication style, the deeper you will intimately connect with him. Both of you will go a long way in building a strong foundation for your relationship and weather all storms that will confront you.</p>
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		<title>Relationship Crisis</title>
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		<pubDate>Fri, 17 Sep 2010 14:04:29 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[Annie and Rick had been married for 7 years they met each other in college. Annie was studying Nursing while Rick is learning Physical Therapy. Rick saw Annie at the library and was love struck by her beauty and sweet smile. He talked to Annie invited her for a meal at the University cafeteria, became [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Annie and Rick had been married for 7 years they met each other in college. Annie was studying Nursing while Rick is learning Physical Therapy. Rick saw Annie at the library and was love struck by her beauty and sweet smile. He talked to Annie invited her for a meal at the University cafeteria, became friends, dated for 4 years until they graduated college, both got a job and decided to get married.</p>
<p>Like any other couples, during their wedding you can see their happiness and devotion for each other. They were very much in love. They dated for five years before deciding to tie the knot. They always tell their friends, how lucky they are to have survived the different problems they encountered when they were still dating.</p>
<p>Jokingly Annie said,”They are not just good medical practitioners but also good dancers.”They used proper medicine and dance steps to solve their issues. She taught their marriage is already resistant to any major problem.</p>
<p>Five years later Annie and Rick are still together but Annie is no longer bubbly. Both of them had been very busy with their jobs and what’s noticeable is they don’t have any children yet. When asked by family and friends, how’s their marriage, Annie will just simply say, “We’re okay, we’re just busy and enjoying our job.”</p>
<p>Annie keeps telling everybody that her marriage is okay, deep inside her she feels something wrong. She is in denial and she refuses to acknowledge the signs of a relationship in crisis which is already evident in their marriage.</p>
<p>Annie loved her husband so much and she valued her marriage. She’s afraid that if she talks to her husband about the issues that’s causing her troubles, he might hurt her and get mad. One day, Annie asked Rick if they could go to a fertility clinic to consult if there is something wrong with their reproductive system.</p>
<p>Rick was so upset and he got really mad, blaming Annie for not getting pregnant, accusing her of thinking that he might have a problem. Rick told her that he prefers to solve their problem without any third party. After that Annie just stop asking Rick about anything or sharing her concerns. They talk about their jobs most of the time.</p>
<p>Sometimes Annie felt angry but she keeps the anger to herself. On the other hand Rick just ignored Annie’s negative feelings to avoid confrontation. They are very good in avoiding conflict. Their friends described them as a peaceful and compatible couple. They agree to each other all the time. Is this normal? Do you really think Annie is right? Their relationship is okay because they never argue with each other.</p>
<p>Annie and Rick’s relationship is typical. There are couples like them who are expert in handling their negative emotions toward each other because of fear of hurting each other that may cause break up. However couples like Annie and Rick maybe successful in hiding their anger from each other but they are slowly distancing from each other.</p>
<p>This is a condition where a couple needs to wake up and face that their relationship is in crisis. What are the clear signs that Annie and Rick have a relationship in crisis?</p>
<ol>
<li>Annie and Rick didn’t realize they are living parallel but separate lives. Why? They’ve been married for five years and yet they haven’t any children. That’s a serious problem to any couple especially if the woman wants to have her own child.</li>
<li>In order to maintain a peaceful relationship Annie agrees to Rick all the time without expressing her own ideas or feelings.</li>
<li>Annie and Rick didn’t resolve their outstanding problem. It was left unsolved even if Annie suggested a concrete solution. Rick didn’t listen t and refuses to discuss the issue he got made.</li>
<li>Rick blames Annie about the problem and doesn’t accept that part of the problem concerns him as well.</li>
<li>They talk about their job but not their personal concerns which cause distance.</li>
<li>They lack intimacy, romance and sexual desire considering the fact that they‘re afraid to share each other’s feeling because of fear to hurt each other.</li>
</ol>
<p>If your relationship is like Annie and Rick’s you must take the right action before you head to a more devastating trouble. What should you do? First stop the denial and face the truth that no matter how you avoid conflict, your relationship is still vulnerable to a major problem. Support each other and be willing to discuss on possible solution. Avoid pointing fingers and blaming each other or blaming your spouse. Rather than telling your spouse to shut up, encourage each other to talk, and share your deepest thoughts and feelings. Listen, respect, and understand each other. Keep your hearts open for each other.</p>
<p>&#8220;It is only with the heart that one can see rightly; what is essential is invisible to the eye.&#8221;<br />
&#8211;Antoine de Saint-Exupery</p>
<p>Problems in relationship will always be around. You might be good in avoiding them but you must understand that there are problems that can’t be avoided. You need to face it and solve it properly. Leaving a conflict unresolved will lead you to a situation that you might regret in the long run.</p>
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		<title>Save Marriage Advice</title>
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		<pubDate>Thu, 16 Sep 2010 14:02:35 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[The prevalence of broken marriages in our society is alarming to those who look upon their marital vows as important and holy. Many still believe in the sanctity of marriage and the importance of family togetherness. Although divorce is increasing, couples looking for save marriage advice have also gone up. Family is considered the smallest [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>The prevalence of broken marriages in our society is alarming to those who look upon their marital vows as important and holy. Many still believe in the sanctity of marriage and the importance of family togetherness. Although divorce is increasing, couples looking for save marriage advice have also gone up.</p>
<p>Family is considered the smallest but the most important unit in the society. Why? Family experts believe that the family is an important to link between individuals to larger society. Inside the family every individual first learn personality development and character, as well as other aspects of life like discipline, culture, moral values and religious beliefs is also being taught first within the family. Therefore, the family can’t be left broken or disintegrated.</p>
<p>Moreover a broken family brings too much pain and difficulty not just for the couple but most importantly to children. If a couples’ marriage is on the edge of falling apart, couple must find solutions to save their marriage.</p>
<p>Dr. John and Julie Gottman, America’s love lab experts shared in their book “10 Lessons to Transform Your Marriage,”four important things every couple must check to prevent their marriage to break. Dr. John and Julie Gottman described them as the Horsemen of the Apocalypse.</p>
<p>Here are the following horsemen according to Dr. John and Julie Gottman:</p>
<ol>
<li>CRITICISM- This is a very negative feeling which tends to attack the personality or character of your partner. Attacking each other’s shortcomings to create change is not helpful. Instead, your partner will react with</li>
<li>DEFENSIVENESS- Of course if your character is assassinated by anybody, including your spouse your first reaction is to defend yourself and launched a counter attack to prove you are right or innocent. Instead of focusing on the issue, you priority is to protect your honor and pride. For instance if you criticize your mate for always forgetting to put towel on the bathroom rack whenever she washes them and when you use the bathroom there’s nothing in there. And you criticize her for her inability to remember small information like that, she will get offended. She will then launch her defensive words and say, “That’s not the only thing I do around the house, just get the towel if you need it. You are not disabled are you? Dr. Gottman said, when individuals defend themselves from criticisms they usually do it with by complaining and whining.</li>
<li>CONTEMPT-This is another form of behavior wherein Dr. Gottman described as a form of sarcasm and mockery displayed against the spouse. Instead of listening attentively a spouse display unaccepted gestures or pronounce highly negative words like pouting or making faces or calling the spouse with a name that’s highly insulting to his or her personality.</li>
<li>STONEWALLING-According to the lab love experts this happens when a couple refuse or stops communication when conflict arises. When he or her spouse is trying to engage in a conversation the spouse seems to be talking to no one or a ghost. This kind of attitude leads the spouse to become distant to each other.</li>
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<p>These behaviors are oftentimes observed from every couple. Observe your conversations with your husband or wife, do you notice having any of these horsemen in your marriage? If that’s the case you need to do something to eliminate them and save yourselves from the pain and your marriage from ending.</p>
<p>It is best that you replace these negative communication skills into positive by practicing to:</p>
<ol>
<li>Stop criticizing your mate, if you he is doing or saying something that is not acceptable to you, say it in a positive way. Think first before uttering the words and practice constructive criticism to avoid hurting your mates feeling.</li>
<li>Accepting your fault honestly without whining or complaining. Instead of finding faults from your spouse ask him for any suggestion that will help improve the situation. This will create a positive atmosphere in the conversation because you imply your need for his advice or help.</li>
<li>Instead of being sarcastic or stating demeaning words to your spouse, smile and be gentle. Apologize for your mistakes and promise to try your best it won’t happen again. A sincere apology and a warm smile melts softens a heart.</li>
<li> Step closer towards your mate and listen to him with utmost love and understanding. Always remember that disagreements happen all the time in marriage because there is no such thing as perfect marriage. Perceive conflict as a driving force that will make your relationship stronger and happier.</li>
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<p><em>&#8220;Love means to commit oneself without guarantee, to give oneself completely in the hope that our love will produce love in the loved person. Love is an act of faith, and whoever is of little faith is also of little love.&#8221; &#8211;</em>Erich Fromm</p>
<p>One of the most important things a couple should understand is that when both of you has faith and trust each other, you can weather all storms and there’s no need to worry and wonder if you will grow old together. Love, understand, respect and trust each other…that will bring you to the peak of your marriage.</p>
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		<title>Save Your Marriage</title>
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		<pubDate>Wed, 15 Sep 2010 13:57:25 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[A Married life is like riding a roller coaster…riding up and down feeling excited and sometimes scared of falling. At the back of your mind, you’re thinking what if along the ride something goes wrong, mechanical malfunction or your safety built loosens. You feel mixed emotions, scary at some points but you feel good after [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>A Married life is like riding a roller coaster…riding up and down feeling excited and sometimes scared of falling. At the back of your mind, you’re thinking what if along the ride something goes wrong, mechanical malfunction or your safety built loosens. You feel mixed emotions, scary at some points but you feel good after a successful ride. You feel great, happy and satisfied with the experience.</p>
<p>You get the same contentment and joyful feeling once you overcome a rough ride in your marriage. As you know every married acknowledge the reality that being married is not always having fun. They say it’s a constant discovery of what’s going to happen every day as you journey life with your spouse. Once in a while or most of the time, Marriage is inflicted with a disease that needs to be taken cared. Proper medication should be taken once the marriage is ill.</p>
<p>Marriage can be compared to different facet in life and if you open your eyes and observe our society you will feel lucky for having a spouse beside you. Some people end up alone, gone through a difficult marriage separation and it’s too hard for them to get over it. Because of this, a constant effort to save your marriage is necessary.</p>
<p>To save your marriage from a sad ending you must work hand in hand with your spouse in this endeavor. Before any major problems occur you should be prepared in dealing with any trials that will come along the way. A married couple must always be prepared to adjust in certain situations and should be open, understanding, considerate with each other and always use your love for each other as best weapon to save your marriage.</p>
<p>&#8220;Being deeply loved by someone gives you strength, while loving someone deeply gives you courage.&#8221;<br />
&#8212;<a href="http://www.1-love-quotes.com/cgi-bin/viewquotes.cgi?action=search&amp;Author_First_Name=&amp;Author_Last_Name=Lao-Tzu">Lao Tzu</a>&#8212;</p>
<p>Transparency and honesty is also important in every marriage. If you and your spouse trust each other, both of you feel secured in the relationship. If you feel secured in your marriage, you feel peace and harmony at home, and the loving feeling is always present.</p>
<p>Another important thing a married couple must always keep in mind is to keep their marriage vows…honor their marriage all the time and avoid any temptation. If you believe in the words of God, you must always remember this commandment from HIM:</p>
<p>“Marriage is to be honored by all, and husbands and wives must be faithful to each other. God will judge those who are immoral and those who commit adultery.” (Hebrew 13:4 TEV)</p>
<p>Another important commandment for married couples to remember which can be considered as the best advice to save your marriage is this:</p>
<p>“…He who made them at the beginning ’made them male and female’ , and said, ‘For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh’? So then, they are no longer two but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let no man separate.” (Matt 19:4-6, NKJV)</p>
<p>Most couples nowadays forget their holy promise with their spouses when they got married and the advices they receive from the person who officiated their wedding ceremony and most importantly they have forgotten the God’s teachings about marriage.</p>
<p>But if you always carry the words of God with you about the importance and the sanctity of your marriage, you are assured that you can save your marriage from any crisis. Instead you will enjoy a happy, healthy, and successful married life.</p>
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